Monday, July 18, 2016

Thoughts, self improvement, realization

MAKE THEM UP YOURSELF 
Games

Writing games

Creativity games

Relaxing games

Morning routine games

Getting motivated for work games

Socializing games

Opening up and finding what you want games

Self expression games

Self improvement games
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Being open, looking into your heart and just asking what do you need, instead of going all logical and discussional about everything

do you think there is something out there to figure out, to think of, some kind of solution to your problems which you can solve by thinking and by 

being logical, or to find out there, somewhere?

The feeling you felt when we got very close, the feeling when you played tohou and simply had fun. How did it feel, and why?


Fact is. There is nothing out there. Everything you need, you already have in you to live a happy life. Stuff out there, can only serve the purpose of 

reminding you of things you already have. What is even more important than that, is to stop being aiming for things out there and look into yourself, 

and the real issues you have with your current moment in life

"i want stability and want my life to go in the direction i want or else what's the point"

How would you feel, describe to me a stable Julies life?

What is stopping you from feeling that way now?  

Why not live a stable life starting RIGHT NOW? 

Isn't it just an excuse. To tell yourself that the answer is out there somewhere, and avoid looking into yourself.

As it hurts and its HARD WORK, it strains your  mind to look into yourself. That is just a testament to how bad and untrained we are at it. But it is 

the most important thing out there 100% NO LIES 100% PROMISE

THERE IS NOTHING ELSE, but this when it comes to feeling good
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Eradicate Fear by Taking Small, Relentless Steps. | 10 things before going to  bed, 10 when waking up. Find out what I need to do!!

Engage in activities that keep you in the moment.

Avoid the 24/7 always on lifestyle.

Turn off lights, music, news, equipment, and most importantly, the mind
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Train Your Brain with Visualization

To get yourself to do something that scares you, you need to visualize yourself doing it first. And you need to visualize it over and over because 

repetition is how your brain masters new skills.

And if you consistently visualize it every day (and all you really need is just thirty seconds daily), you’ll start to mentally master the action. Then 

all your body has to do is follow through.

The key to effective visualization is to involve excruciating detail.

You need to visualize what it’s going to look like just as much as what it’s going to sound, feel, and emote like. You also need to imagine how you’ll 

react to different possible scenarios, including the worst possible outcome.

What will you do if you fail? What will the alternative actions be? How will you feel?

When you mentally train yourself to deal with potential failure, you won’t give up when that bump in the road actually happens.
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Run Toward the Pain

As human beings we naturally seek refuge in comfort.

Our minds and bodies are content following familiar patterns and routines, conserving energy and hiding from the scary unknown.

Unfortunately, that means we become dependent on external aids like smartphones to do difficult tasks and any strenuous thinking for us. This 

discomfort-avoiding behavior rubs off onto other areas of our lives: one minute you’re avoiding the pain of being alone by scrolling through Facebook, 

the next you may be avoiding your feelings after losing someone close to you, inhibiting your ability to move forward.
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1. It is a powerful reminder to find a way to make the day count.
“Today is not over yet.”

“To honor and accept one’s shadow is a profound spiritual discipline. It’s whole-making and thus holy and the most important experience of a lifetime.”

We get super pissed off. Or we want to hide. Or we push away those we love, and wall off. We want to numb the pain. Or cover it up.

In reality when doing something, you feel calm or joy. That is the real THING THEN. Else you are trying to mask it with something else. ( negatives )

I was all that was left. And if that was it, then by God I was going to love her.
And what did loving myself really mean?
It meant accepting myself enough to allow myself to be a mess.
To not apologize 100 times for every single mistake, or kill myself over them.
To humbly say to others and myself, this is it.
And then, somehow, I started to accept others like myself. They got to be messes too. And my heart opened.

Know that after good experiences, “bad” things will happen.

After expansion, we always contract. And that means nothing about us.
Life brings us lemons so that we can discover how to go deeper and closer to our true selves. Once we’ve hit one level, there’s always another.
We can have some good days where everything is great, and then WHOA, something steps in that challenges us to grow.
I’ve come to accept that I will eventually lose momentum after being in the flow.
The good news about feeling bad is that when we get thrown off course, each letdown strengthens our spirit when we find our way out.
“Downtimes” are our ally. Without “bad,” “good” wouldn’t exist, and just like life, we learn to roll with it. What’s most important is how we acknowledge and validate our being human as truly enough.
“When fear wakes up inside, and there is no place to run away or hide from it, consider it a gift. In all the glory of that discomfort, know there is refuge in surrender.”
 “life is a constant cycle of tension and release.”
Attempting to control my life and to eliminate all painful situations did not cure my anxiety. If anything, it made it worse. So often the dread of doing things I didn’t want to do was ten times more painful than the actual task itself, but I was too caught up in my suffering to realize this.
The more I tried to push out the bad things in my life, the more I reinforced that they were intolerable, and the worse things began to seem. Slowly, this avoidance trap made my life smaller and smaller. Things became more and more painful, until I felt uncomfortable even at home.
Because of this, I would avoid situations where I could not take the steps I wanted to control my environment. Because I developed such strict standards for deeming my environment “safe,” I missed out on a lot.
Rushing, self victimization, blame, any feeling which is not POSSITIVE and USEFUL, is A MASK!!!!!!!! FOR CANCER FEELINGS AND FEAR, AND AVOIDING THE REAL ISSUE. The only moments when you get "work" done and improve yourself and how you feel, is when you focus on yourself and your feelings RIGHT NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!

You are a warm, intelligent woman—just live the best honest life you can.
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Feelings which are important:
  1. Exploration / sense of adventure/ excitement / new ideas / fresh inspiration / discovery
  2. Joy / fun / self expression / focused on the moment / challenge
  3. Satisfaction / fulfillment / purpose
  4.  Taking it easy / taking time to yourself / do nothing special at all / feel cozy
  5. Dealing with problems / issues
  6. Companionship / friendship / connection with others


 So how do you feel those feelings in a way which is nice for yourself?




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